Just an observation. And maybe some info to help with the rebuild.
If it was a tornado, your Imax and your wife's flowers would be torn up and they aren't. There are no obvious strike marks on the boom, rotor, or mast which would be there if hit by a plane landing. They are intact.
The culprit seems to have been wind. A freak gust, sustained, etc.
Think about it. The VQ3 has a windload factor, the rotor has a windload factor, they both have weight. Whatever the combined windload is, it is way, way more than what that pushup pole is rated for unguyed.
It looks like the wind is coming from the front of your house; ideally, you would want to have two guy points in the front corners of your yard, and then the third one back the direction your antenna is pointing. But if your wife absolutely will not allow it, then you are going to have to use something much stouter.
For a non-guyed solution, a single ~20', large diameter, 1/4" minimum wall pipe or tube is the only thing that will be able to handle the combined windload.
Something like this or what ever the largest diameter that your Chinese rotor can handle. Your bracket on the side of the house can probably handle 2.5".
https://shop.galloup.com/buy/product/D-2-1-2-SCH-80-276W-BLK-ERW-A53B/2996934?ID=/Black-Standard-and-XH-Pipe/dept-W02
P.S. Painting the pipe white will probably help with the wife, I know it did with mine. Happy wife = Happy life.
