Check 8T on schematic. Measure with DMM to verify.
Mike
I wonder if it's an rf issue? Try using some 103 bypass caps. Maybe one from the base to emitter of your transistor.
Mike is right. You really don't really need a relay for most amps. The transistor will handle the job for anything with a 12v relay. Looks like you're making good progress.
Because the voltage varies with the power control, chances are you are connected to the modulated voltage feeding the final or the DC control to the series pass modulator and not the 8 volt TX line.
The 8 volt regulator should be the part mounted on the heatsink towards the front right in your photo. This part may not have an 8 volt terminal that turns on in TX only and that switching may be done by another transistor close by.
If the trigger voltage you're using now has not caused any problems, it's unlikely that a new one will develop as a result. However, I would confirm that the DC is not modulated by switching your meter to AC and modulating it. The DC meter may not show any change with AC audio on top of a DC voltage.