And thanks for the advice
I ended up staying up last night until blurry eyed with this thing past 1 am back to work at 5 , well, you were correct again I had Q1 transistor incorrect! After I put them the way they are supposed to be I bet I checked the schematic 20 times, unfortunately the relay is still engaging when turning the bypass switch to low or high, when I get home today I am going to deoxit the pot Nomadradio was referring too
glad I put those connectors on those wires for the relay, I had a feeling I would be removing it several times, makes the job quicker !