Hello,
I feel your pain.
I have been into radio for many years now, and have never gotten so far as to actually take the test. I have run into some of the same problems as you. My advice is to get online and find some local clubs, as I did, and bug the hell out of them till you finally find a person who is really into the spirit of ham radio. I shotgunned emails, and after quite a while, two people finally took me seriously. I am going to the local ham fest this following weekend to meet these guys, and starting classes in two weeks to prepare for my testing.
But I have been trying for quite a while to connect to someone helpful, and I almos gave up once again, till I recieved the emails, one took almost two monthes to respond.
Dont give up if you really want it, and remember the earlier advice about getting help here and on other web sites. (Just dont be gullible.)