The biggest difference in the performance of a dipole and a vertical antenna of some kind is in polarization. A difference in polarization can make a very big difference in what you hear and where you are heard. That's normal.
The size of the wire/conductor used in making a dipole (or a vertical antenna) does have some slight affect, but nothing very significant. To make any significant differences, that difference in size has to be huge, not just several wire sizes. One good example of that is called a 'cage' dipole. That bandwidth thingy is very, very over emphasized. It's also frequency related, what may make a difference at VHF won't make any difference at HF.
There can't be any -exact- size for any particular length of resonant antenna, resonance depends on how/where the thing is mounted (among other things). How that antenna reacts to things around it. When you talk about an indoor antenna, that reacting to things around the antenna get's magnified a great deal, there's just so much stuff near the antenna. So, a little 'skootch' longer/shorter is absolutely normal. Any/all antennas can benefit from tuning. It may not be much, but there can always be some improvements in how the thing is made. There are NO "one size fit's all" antennas no matter what or who tells you there are.
One 'trick' with dipoles is that their input impedance can be manipulated by varying the angle between their 'legs'. Making that angle less than 180 degrees (a flat top) lowers the input impedance from a 'norm' of around 65 - 75 ohms to something closer to 50 ohms (same for 'drooping' the radials of a groundplane antenna!). Depending on how/where the thing is mounted, that 'droop' may not have to be very much at all. The only way I know of to tell for sure is to try it and see.
Resonance has nothing to do with input impedance of an antenna. And/or, SWR has nothing to do with resonance. One doesn't tell you anything about the other. And to complicate things just a little bit more, a resonant and properly impedance matched antenna produces a radiation pattern. If that radiation pattern doesn't put the signal where you want it to go, then that resonant and low SWR antenna isn't doing you much good, is it? That radiation pattern is a product of the antenna's length, height, and 'shape' (simple omni-directional/directional). Any and everything around an antenna affects that radiation pattern to some extent.
Ain't all this sh_ _ ... stuff just so much fun??
- 'Doc