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Drugs.

My ex-wife of 17 years was a pill head/whore. I make far better than "good" money, not bragging just explaining.... We were always behind on bills, always having to pawn something recently bought, credit was shot, living paycheck to paycheck and hardly making it which is why I got out of the radio hobby, had to sell what I had to pay bills. She was addicted to xanax and valium, couldn't have care less about opioids. She always made excuses for where the money went, and I believed them (not really, just easier to ignore it, love is blind). After we got divorced, I almost instantly had money to pay the bills off and put money into savings. Got my credit fixed, got remarried 2 years later and was able to get a new truck and a new Acadia Denali for my new wife AND get back into the hobby.
So I truly understand the disruption, financial hardships and misery drugs cause in a household.
 
Believe me take it from someone who has taken pain meds for years . Am I happy about it ... NO ! Did I ask to bring home a Permanent Souvenir from Viet Nam ? NO ! What gets my :censored: is these people that have abused it all these years make it hard for people like me , in order to get thru my day , walk like normal people and get my RX . Every year I get piss tested ( make sure I am taking them ) & letters to my Dr . to make sure I should be taking them . My Rx is locked in my Gun Safe , I take only as stated . If you are not sure whos looking in your Medicine Cabinet , do like I did once , put Marbles in it , stacked near the door , they open it , they crash , all over the floor , they run out , never to return again . But sorry guys , 357 takes Pain Meds . Stay Healthy & Safe ! 73 & God Bless ! Leo
 
Well here I am again! My son was doing pretty good for the last few weeks and then I went back to work. He had gotten a job while I was home last time, just working in the shop of a little water well drilling outfit, they were paying him fifteen dollars an hour, cash money, 3 minutes from the house. He was going on about how he wanted to do things right, turn over a new leaf and get his act together. Then he got paid, and guess what he went and bought, yep drugs! I hadn't even been at work two days before my daughter called me filling me in on the latest. He had the chance to start over in a new town, with new people but instead he does the same song and dance and when you live in a small town, news travels fast. My daughter has lived in this area for a few years and made the remark that he screwed up with the wrong guy, he's very well known in this area, so my son has already ruined it for himself in the new town. As soon as my old house sells ( for another thread) I'm going to tell him to leave my home, I've discussed this with his mother and she's in agreement. I figure the cops will be involved because I know he'll throw a temper tantrum. And if I kick him out and my old house is empty he'll break into it and do who knows what. I told his mother she needs to cut him off completely no help for anything! Because if you give him a crumb of help he will continue to go down the same road, if he has no help, it's up to him, he'll either straighten up or crash and burn. We've bent over backwards to help and it hasn't helped. I feel we have done far more than we ever should have, if he wants to be a lowlife, he can be a lowlife somewhere else, its time for him to be accountable for his decisions, and stop causing me and his mother grief. so the way I see it, if he goes and does something stupid, that's on him not us, we've tried to help for the last 10 years. You can't help someone who refuses to help themselve but I'm sure he'll blame us for all his problems as usual, but I'm not gonna buy it, I'm done with his problems, I've got better things do with the rest of my life. I forgot to mention he only worked one week, got paid, got high and quit the job. He has no idea that I know so I'll have to listen to some elaborate lies, but that's nothing new either.
 
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Well I'm at work at the moment, but before I left I got mad and unleashed on that stepson. I made it known very loudly and clearly that he better have his stuff packed up and gone before I get back home. The straw that broke the camel's back? I went to check out my camper and boat because the wife and I have a fishing trip planned for when I'm home next time, and I notice my lights on the boat didn't look right. Upon further examination I find that the wires were cut and the lights just propped up to look like everything was normal, that's when I'd had all I could stand. So I take the lights inside, lay them on the table in front of him, and asked what's the story on these? The first words out of his mouth were I don't know, I didn't touch them. That's when I came undone, told him I was sick of the lies, and sick of him, told him I didn't buy a new home to have him live with us and make my life miserable, and I wasn't gonna do it. I cussed him so bad I think the paint started to peel off the dining room wall, and in between the F bombs and the other anger filled cuss words I told him I didn't want to see him, hear him or have anything else to do with him and be gone when I get home!!!
His mother was a little upset but everyone in attendance for my meltdown new better than to say anything else to piss me off. Just since December he's knocked the lock off my new trailer, scratched it all up, bent the fender on it, hauled off my tin I had saved for a project at the new home. Goes through my closet and wears whatever boots and clothes he wants while I'm at work. Eat's us out of house and home like he doesn't pay for groceries, because he doesn't, same thing with laundry detergent or anything else he uses, he uses to the extreme. He's taken my big John Deer mower without permission to cut lawns, he's stolen about one hundred dollars or more worth of change I've been saving for well over a year, I take my loose change and put it in a plastic container that stands about 2ft tall, it was full, came home from work and a fourth of it was gone. Pawned my portable air compressor and chainsaw, that cost me $ 170 to get those back. So the lights on the boat was all I could stand, his momma was crying and saying I just don't want you to hate him, and I said he hasn't done anything to make me like him, if anybody else treated me this way I would have stopped having anything to do with them a long time ago, I've been telling everyone that I've had enough and I've had enough, he's 39 years old and should have gotten his life together a long time ago. I'm done!
 
Well you’re more patient/tolerate than I was. Was out of country for a death and had to leave early because my daughter had a party while I was away (neighbors called me). Came home to find ruined patio furniture, hole in the wall downstairs and splintered door jam. Threw her out, gave her a 26 inch suitcase and left it up to her to get home down south to Mom. Years later she’s thanked me and is a completely different person I’m proud of.
 
I love his mother to death, I wouldn't have subjected myself to this much punishment if I didn't. This lies, and stealing has been going on since he was 14years old, now he's a grown man that hasn't worked more than a month at any given time in the last ten years. To say I hate him makes me sound like a prick, but I'm about to that point, I can't stand to be around him or even listen to him. And it really sticks in my gullet when he's posting on FB about how he's gotten off drugs, and straightened his life out, he's not off drugs, he's just not using everyday. When you stay up all night arranging my shop and taking my power washer apart, YOU AIN'T CLEAN!!
Or he's blowing smoke up everyone's butt, and everyone that doesn't have to live with him thinks he's doing great things and is such a great guy. To be perfectly honest, if I never heard or seen from him again it truly wouldn't bother me. here are a few samples of his BS he spreads on FB.
 

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G. Golly Wally…Unfortunately I don’t believe this situation has a happy ending at the moment. He has learned to divide and conquer you and your wife. The problems are literally geometrically compounded when drugs are in the mix. When Mom and Dad aren’t on the same page concerning anything from finances to child raising and everything between your a house divided against itself. Might I suggest focusing on your son isn’t going to solve anything until Mom and Dad can quote “sack race” together…only then can you start to surmount the issues both of you are facing. It should be apparent that pandering to him hasn’t worked so a different approach is required. I truly feel your pain having lived it myself and working with others.
 
G. Golly Wally…Unfortunately I don’t believe this situation has a happy ending at the moment. He has learned to divide and conquer you and your wife. The problems are literally geometrically compounded when drugs are in the mix. When Mom and Dad aren’t on the same page concerning anything from finances to child raising and everything between your a house divided against itself. Might I suggest focusing on your son isn’t going to solve anything until Mom and Dad can quote “sack race” together…only then can you start to surmount the issues both of you are facing. It should be apparent that pandering to him hasn’t worked so a different approach is required. I truly feel your pain having lived it myself and working with others.
He's had us divided since I met her, he could play her like a fiddle by the time he was 3. I've tried to convince her we have to have a United front or he'll never stop.for some reason she feels sorry for him, she seems to think everyone is against him, and they are at least the ones he's screwed over and that's quite a list, including some of her family and friends. He's a complete narcissist, you can go down the list and just check off all the traits of a narcissist and that's him to a Tee. I'm tired of driving half way across the country to work, while this bum reaps the benefits of me busting my ass. When I first started dating her she said don't ever make me choose between you and him. Well as of June 6th we'll have been married 34 years, and it's about to come down to me or him if things don't change. That's not what I want but he's pretty much made life a living hell, I feel I've tried everything possible and I'm beginning to think it will never change. She even admitted to me that he drives her crazy and she wants away from him, but she just continues this endless cycle of enabling him.
 

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