The idea that you have to act a certain way on amateur radio is ridiculous. When you get your license you do not have to take an oath to never use CB again.
If you try to act like someone you aren't people may not want to talk to you because you seem stuck up or are just boring. Loosen you tie and forget the Q codes unless you're using CW.
The rules aren't that complicated. ID every 10 minutes, 1500 watts, stay in band and the rest is just being a decent human being.
It's unfortunate that some people get a license and the first thing they hear is the guys on the local repeaters that also think they have to act a certain way. This starts a viscous cycle of snobbery that is completely unnecessary. In my experience the old timers are usually nicer. They may even have a sense of humor.